Social Media Update
I was sitting in my office attempting to arrange too many shoots in too little time and looked up at the dashboard on my blog. In the middle, just slightly to the right, was the “top searches” section and they read as follows.
1. Fuji 670 (Please people I wrote this years ago and it’s the only equipment review I can remember doing and it’s still NUMBER ONE. So depressing but I know it’s probably not going to change.)
2- Smogranch (Makes sense.)
3- Deleting social media account(Popular as of late.)
4- What if you don’t have a social media account (Sounds like a panicky person perhaps.)
Yep, there they are, in that order. It’s so sad to me that “photography” or “documentary” or something of meaty order wasn’t on tap, but no, denied once again. It did trigger something VERY interesting however. It made me think about social media for the first time since I deleted my accounts. Why? Because I had already completely forgotten about them.
People keep asking me, “Do you miss them?” Are you frickin kidding me? Not only do I not miss them, I am LOVING the free emotional space no longer tied up with hmm….let’s see…relentless self-promotion, cats, police brutality claims, surely more Olympic trivia and than anyone can possibly consume, celebrity news and countless other valueless tidbits we love to throw around in record fashion.
What valueless drivel have I wasted my time on by NOT having social media? Well, I finally read the book about Buddhism I’d been trying to get to forever. Finished it, as well as many other books I’d been meaning to get to, and I’ve also spent the time writing 15,000 words of the book about my father. I’ve also created a gaggle of new “art” pieces, completely reorganized my office and have…wait for it…wait for it….taken up photography once again. New equipment, new shoots, new plans and new books(arty, edition of one) in the works including one that REALLY has my juices flowing.
And you know what else I’ve done? I’ve fielded a nonstop flow of “I read your social media post and I was so happy for you. I’d love to do it but I’m not quite there,” encounters, which I actually enjoy. First, I’m always amazed when someone reads my blog. Second, I’m glad a lot of other people are at least contemplating this avenue because I think they would have much more peaceful and centered lives without the constant drumbeat of nonsense.
And yes, there are plenty of people I have not corresponded with since that day, and perhaps never will again, but I’m totally okay with this. It appears I still know A LOT of people and can’t keep up with those in human form let alone those in cyber form.
My advice, just do it already. We as a species have gone down this hopeless rabbit hole, and the benefit is NOT outweighing what it has done to us as communicators. I met with a friend recently, someone I was close with at one point in time, and he could not have a conversation without referring to what was happening on social media. I kept having to say “I’m not on it,” which was met with a strange stare and then he would go right back to asking if I had seen such and such on Facebook. And you want to know what else? His work has slipped. And he’s no longer as interesting as he once was. Nor is he a good conversation. Not to mention he can’t finish a thought or sentence. Sadly, he’s not the only one I’ve had this experience with.
And finally, what has come from this departure is a return to letter writing. I’ve always written letters not only because I love doing so, but also because I love RECEIVING letters. My mind feels far less cluttered than it did a few short months ago, which for me is flat out working. I still find it very difficult to quiet my mind, still can’t really meditate and still have too many things going on at one particular time, but I think I’m moving in the right direction. As a friend once said in referring to photography, “You need to find the clarity within the clutter.” I couldn’t agree more.